The Grief Left Behind

My daughter recently told me of a dream she had about the baby I lost. I knew it affected her but just not this much! I let her tell me about her dream and tried not to say too much as she spoke.  


Man, I thought I cried enough tears for my loss but I guess I never really paid much attention to the hurt my daughter was feeling too.  She was supposed to be a sister.  She was supposed to help mommy take care of the baby, baby sit, get jealous because the baby is getting all the attention, change the diaper too, hold hands while crossing the street.......  All those things siblings deal with when they become"siblings" and as they grow as siblings.


The first thing you have to remember to let them know that sometimes, these things happen & there is no explanation for it. It's OK to be hurt and to cry and even scream.  I would never deny my daughter her feelings - because God knows she has them.  She cried with me after this loss and I am so thankful for my Angel still with me.  I am looking forward to her becoming a sibling.  I know that time will come. But I also need to give her room to grieve as well and shower her with as much love AND discipline as a I can.